And if you don't agree with me that's ok. I put my foot down and told him he had to cut down and he agreed. I'm sure you have a good reason for not using cocaine. We were together for just under 7 years,engaged to be married,and lived together for over 4 years. Now I know why she always took her purse into the bedroom and hid it.
Another really close friend is an ex meth addict and she's got endless horror stories of pretty much all kinds. We live in Nz, so. Hopefully she'll open up about what's going on and you can take it from there. Remember Phil Hartman comedian was murdered by his wife? I have even witnessed some of the abuse myself both on the phone and in person. Alcohol and weed with the occasional acid trip don't make a relationship that hard to maintain. She really doesn't deserve for anyone to turn their back on her the way her family does and I have yet to get a clear answer as to why they behave this way. .
But just last week she admitted to me that she does smoke cigarettes whenever she can get one, but she didnt want me to know for some odd reason since I also smoke. He is now clean and happily married with kids. God loves each and every soul with deep tender love for their own sakes. Thus, I started dating him despite the fact that he used to smoke in the past. At least attempting to understand his side of all of this. If your son is a teenager, put your foot down about when he needs to be with the family, and thats that.
But I think you need to be honest and tell the therapist you use too. Trying to break-up his relationship and expressing your disapproval is the surest way to shut down communication and lead to a long-term rift. When my girlfriend first told me about her marijuana use, I thought I could deal with it and I did to some extent but when she started smoking it in her home when I visited it made me feel very uncomfortable. I have seen her facebook and some of the pics of her and her friends are borderline soft porn and very inappropriate. So many questions and feeling so lonely in this thing. Am I just being controlling! Even worse, she has a rather scary amount of solid evidence to support everything she says. Long term side effects are the following: dehydration, hypertension, hyperthermia, heart failure and kidney failure.
That really hurt me and as an example, I told him that I normally without never date a guy that smokes weed, ect, but because of how I feel about him, I made an exception. It sounds like if he is lying about drug use and disappearing for days at a time then he doesn't seem like he's trying, to me at least. In a world that sells cigarettes and booze which are very bad for you on every street corner gas station and grocery store in America and we have legalized drug dealers we call doctors pushing antidepressants painkillers and all sorts of drugs on us marijuana seems to be a sane choice. This is the oddest I have ever felt answering a question. I know her aunt sexually abused her and I know she's been physically abused kind of a lot but not too sure on the details. Let's see a source on that, a source for being near one person, once, who smoked in the last hour? Even after reading several articals about similar cases explaining that its not either of our faults and that we shouldn't fight or get down on each other because of the problem because it will just make the man feel inatiquit and it makes matters worst. I understand people come from different backgrounds and have different personalities like introvert vs.
I started to forget about it but when summer began, my friend showed me a video of her smoking it the first time. That said, I really think you need to take a step back and butt out of your son's life. That was 8 years ago. Please respond with any opinion you have. Third, it is such a relief to read a letter from a woman — unlike a woman whose boy friend or husband is ruining her life with their substance abuse — who resolves her course of action on her own, without asking someone to else to tell her what to do. Alcohol is not as dangerous as smoking and I support your desire to want her to quit smoking.
You get kind of in a frozen state, you can sort of see but everything is weird looking and almost like tunnel vision, then you go into a stupor type thing where you can still sort of operate then you completely black out and sleep. He is saying he wants to be by my side and do what it takes. If my family came down hard with huge expectations. It's hard for me reading your post since there are a lot of members here who lost their loved one and others such as myself who do everything we can to keep our loved ones alive. I laughed it off and thought she was joking, until she started to explain it more. Honestly, you just answered all of your own questions while telling this long story. But she doesn't want it to work.
When he would be running low on his supply his personality would change, like when I would call him at work he would sound depressed and I would have to force conversation which would frustrate me and cause arguments. You are expressing your boundaries. . He ended up going over to his friends every night that week and smoking every night. Once the bus came back to the school, i ran up to her and just broke down.
However, it's not the differences between my gf and other addicts I've known that bothers me. The EmpowerPlus stuff they sell should help her quite a bit. Your son would be best off cutting the apron strings. People on these drugs do a lot of stuff they would not normally do. You need to take care of yourself and your health problems first and foremost.
On occasion she will go out with her girlfriends and get pretty drunk and every so often there is a little bit of cocaine that ends up in the mix. I don't know what to tell you other than it's more of a 'you' issue than a lot of people are saying here. After my experience with her I kind of decided never to date another addict. I'm not sure what causes them to want to hide such a thing, but I think that if you want to save your relationship and keep it strong, you're going to have to find the source of this. I strongly belive my Girlfriend is using Heroin but when I have asked she keeps gettin annoyed with me. I will say a prayer for you both.