Declaring it a sin harms the conscience and liberty of many others who find it painless, enjoyable and take precautions to mitigate health risks. And these are not rare occurrences but regular occurrences for people who have anal sex. Your contention is that you find the anus not naturally used or designed for sexual pleasure and therefore a sin to use it for such for all people for all time in all circumstances. I think we should take it very seriously if we as a husband are going to force our wife to do something against what she truly believes is wrong before God. And as long as the comparison did not come from our wives, but rather from ourselves we as men typically get at thrill from competition and pushing ourselves to be as good as another man. Outside of reddit I only know one guy who is into anal.
Now yes you can find ways to reduce that pain but the fact is it is completely normal for anal sex to be painful because it is warning from your body that you are not supposed to be doing that! The right question, it seems to me, is it sufficient or thick enough. Anal training can take anywhere from a few hours to a few months. You repeat the same fallacy with the properties of expansion. The argument I make against anal sex goes beyond the risk factor — it goes to the heart of the issue which is design. Should she do as Deep Strength suggested in the last post and offer other sexual alternatives? Our external tissue has layers of dead cells that serve as a protective barrier against infection. That has been a huge battle in my extended family — when my nephew and his wife decided not to circumcise their son it caused a great strife in the family.
You must with your partner and talk it out. After this hiatus, we did have a difficult time getting her back into it again. Finally, some studies have shown that the introduction of sperm into the anal cavity can contribute to various health problems. Harm can happen in many ways and for many actions, both committed and omitted. But what are people doing when they do that? Lastly you stake its wrongness on the fact that pain and harm are involved.
While I love it its a completely different feeling than vaginal sex my girlfriend is still working on it. Sometimes we must — sometimes she may simply be wrong and cannot see the error of her way. It might not actually be. This often happens when one attempts to make ethical absolutes based on presuppositions that reflect a personal prejudice. We like and the best for anal sex. Second date ever, when she asked about sexual kinks, I mentioned I'd always been into the idea of anal.
I don't care for anal so we'll most likely never try again. This is an example of an unfit comparison. It also causes warning pains to the woman telling her that God did not design her anus to be used for sexual penetration by her husband. When it comes to sex what is forbidden, homosexuality, the opposite is commanded heterosexuality and what is forbidden is adultery and fornication the opposite commanded is a robust sex life in covenant marriage. Some times I think it is appropriate for a husband to use non-physical force to pressure or persuade his wife.
But I will provided you a response anyway in hopes that it will stimulate our hearts and minds to love God more deeply. In this culture it is difficult in practice to overshoot those targets. If they are in no way interested in pursuing anything of the butt stuff nature, let it go. So is anal sex ok for Christian married couples to engage in? In the same way I believe that while the Bible does not specifically mention anal sex there are Biblical principles that would in fact condemn anal sex. A personal example for me would be that my husband would never think of forcing me to go skydiving as he knows I have a fear of heights. A couple months later, after some talking, we got anal beads. It is critical to use lots of lube, we use water-based but there are others out there.
Are circumcised American men dissatisfied with vaginal intercourse and with oral sex so much that they desire anal sex for sexual fulfillment? Anal sex is a hot topic these days. Male and female are meant to bond, not male to male and female to female. It is also meant to keep unity and not have so much arguing, condemnation and division in the body. V26 is a reference to women who do not have sex with men, but replaced them with other women. I have been rebutting what I believe to be spurious statements that will cause doubts in Christian couples about holiness of the marriage bed and produce doubts and not faith. I do believe there is a place for confronting heresy and I do believe especially as Christian men we are called to called out heresy but again it is all about balance.
To further buttress that, as the New Testament says, the marriage bed is undefiled. Design is why most women can so naturally care for the needs of an infant and intuitively know what that child needs where most men would struggle in this area. As I know that the larger issue in my above words is terribly disturbing for many readers, namely, that not necessarily all in the Bible can be taken literally, I will refrain from future comments on this blog. Where I find that some forms of dance for some people may be a sin, I would do harm to label all dancing as a sin. Sadly, many folks seem not able to use their God-given reasoning ability constructively when it comes to interpreting the Bible. In fact I find the logic neither good nor necessary, but that is just my estimation.